Guess what!! I met someone. This wasn’t a guy. This was a MAN. A man in every fashion and sense of the word. Well, needless to say, we had only known each other for 10 days, before I had to make a critical decision. LOL! That’s hilarious. I know what you are thinking. How can you have feelings for someone in 10 days and what critical decision could there possibly be to make in that time frame? Guys, I don’t know. It is definitely a first for me. This guy was different or so I thought.
I normally don’t give details but on this occasion I am. Why? Because I want you to gain understanding of why I did what I did and my thought process. So if you are like the many women who have had to make a decision, and put your loneliness and emotions to the side, you need to hear this. Men, if you want to know the thought process of a WOMAN, you need to continue to read as well.
(I could expound on our acquaintance with many more details but below is everything in a nutshell.)
Meeting this man was the most interesting and the realest introduction I have ever received. His words were a compliment to me, because I could tell as he spoke he was nervous, but he meant what he said. He knew what he wanted. He wanted me. That was a turn on from the beginning. By no means were his words disrespectful or lustful like the normal come ons. This man knew what he wanted and what he had to offer. As he stood over the counter and introduced himself, he said, “I’m looking for a wife. I cook. I clean. I’m loyal. And I promise to be the best man to you that I could be…..” He said a few other things as he took a card and wrote his number down. He was handsome, well dressed and groomed, very nice voice and he served in ministry. I promise, I thought this man was sent from our Heavenly Father. I have never thought about someone after meeting them, but I thought about this man as I drove home. Out of the many numbers I have been given and never called, this MAN was getting a call from me.
The next morning, I text him, “Good morning, this is Krishelle from yesterday. I wanted to text you so you could have my number.” From then we began to talk and went out on a date. OMG! The date was even more confirmation that this man was perfect. He was very attentive, we were into each other, and we looked amazing together. Before I could even tell him that he talks a good game, it was like he knew what I was thinking and he simultaneously said, “I know this may sound like words right now but they will be backed up with action.” Oh My! We were on the same wavelength I loved it! LOL!!…Later he sang the most beautiful song to me and performed a spoken word poem from the perspective of a hurt woman with words of expression as if he was the hurting woman. He also spoke three languages; so not only was he interesting but very intelligent. He had me looking forward to getting to know him.
Well, we went on a few more dates everything was beautiful even more beautiful than the first date. I literally felt as though I could be a woman with this man. I could be feminine and he wouldn’t take advantage of my vulnerabilities. I felt as if I could let some walls down and allow him in. I felt safe and this man had vision. A vision I was willing to follow. And then it happened.
It was Saturday night and we planned to spend all day Sunday together. He would pick me up around 10:30 after service and we would hang out. I looked forward to our date.
The next morning I went to service, came home, got dressed and called him. At this time it was 11:00 am. He text me as I called him, “Babe I will call in a few.” I’m thinking a few maybe thirty minutes or so, mind you he was supposed to pick me up around 10:30.
‘A few’ turned into 2:00pm. Finally, around 2:30 I received a phone call. It was him. He apologized for breaking his commitment and began to fill me in on his issues.
For anyone reading this. If you don’t know the proper protocol for a situation like this, let me tell you. If you have prior arrangements or commitments with someone and you are unable to fulfill that commitment, call the one you made the arrangements with as a courtesy to inform of the reason why you are unable to keep your word. That is all. It’s just that simple.
Needless to say this was the first red flag and I withdrew immediately. To further the conversation and what was spoken, he felt as though, because he took me out on the prior dates, he was entitled to sex. He blatantly stated to me, “Well how many dates do I have to take you on, 10…15? Oh, I know what it is, you are waiting on a confirmation from God before you have sex with me.” To bring closure to this situation, this individual changed faces and on the 10th day he was dismissed.
All of this to say. Wait on the Lord. There are men/women out here that are only out for one thing. They are not trying to get to know you. They want to get close enough to get what they want and if you don’t abide, they will quickly changes faces and show you the real person they are. These individuals do not have Christ as their foundation, no matter what they tell you or portray to be. They are distractions sent by the enemy to delay you from fulfilling purpose.
God has so much more for us, as His children. When we settle for what the world has to offer we will end up with the short end of the stick every time. Run the race with Christ. Allow Him to guide. Seek Him in your decisions and you will never go wrong.
Well, as of now I am waiting patiently for the Lord to reveal my Boaz 🙂 But this wait doesn’t consume me, and nor should it consume you. In the meantime, serve Him. Live on Purpose. Seek His Kingdom and everything else will fall in place. Life is too short to live every waking moment unfulfilled. Live in the now, prepare for the future all while being developed and growing into who the Lord has called you to be. Live on Purpose.
God bless! Love you!!
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Matthew 6:33
Therefore we also, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Hebrews 12:1-2
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22-23