Don’t Sweat What You Can’t Control

I’m sitting here reading and Daniel, my youngest, walks into the dining area. I look at him and tell him, “Daniel you are very intelligent. You have a very unique thought process thats going to benefit the entire world.” Daniel looks at me, with a serious look of curiosity and asks, “Momma, did God tell you to tell me that? Because I just had the thought in my room that I wasn’t smart.” First of all what he said broke my heart, anyone who knows Daniel knows he is the most intelligent and the funniest young man you will ever meet. But immediately I recognized if I didn’t let him know just how intelligent he was, his thoughts about himself would hold him back.

I explained to him, “It’s not what you are that holds you back its what you think you are NOT that keeps you from moving forward. What you think about yourself plays a major role in your progression in life. If you don’t believe you can achieve levels of success, you will not do it.” I informed him, ” We can’t always control our circumstances but we CAN control our own thoughts, especially the thoughts we have about ourself.”

One of the hardest things for a human being to do is to change their mindset or pattern of thinking. Have you ever met someone 20 years later and they are in the same place in life? It looks as though they have made no progression?  Oftentimes, the stagnation in their life has to do with what they believe about themselves and very little to do with circumstances. It could be, they have found themselves in certain situations because of their way of thinking which in turn brought about certain actions. I don’t care how much information you research or learn, if you do not apply mentally AND with actions what you have learned you will never change your outcome. You can be what my dad use to call the ‘smartest dummy in the world’, because although you have the necessary knowledge and tools to change, you choose to keep your old way of thinking and do the very thing that you have always done.

True transformation starts with your mind. Your thought process and they way you think. Practice controlling your thoughts, guard what you put into your mind, your ears, your eyes, your heart and guard what you say. You have to make a conscious decision to change your mindset. When you realize you are going back to your old way of thinking, whether it is thoughts of low self esteem or thoughts contributing to low confidence, immediately begin to confess with your MOUTH the opposite. What helps drown out a thought is your voice – speaking.

Do this as an exercise, think of a word and say the opposite of that word. For instance, think the word ‘hard’ but as you think ‘hard’ speak the word ‘soft.’ What word was more dominate? Was it the word you spoke? Did speaking help drown out the thought? The word you spoke should have dominated the word you thought. This is why it is important to speak daily confessions over your life. Speak ‘life’ into your situations and into your life. In doing so you are re-training your thought processes from negativity and building yourself up with encouraging declarations. Pretty soon you will not stagnate yourself any longer but you will find yourself progressing to your next level in life.

Remember, you are not put here on Earth to build only yourself up with encouraging words, but bring out the best in others by building them up as well. Parents this is why it is important to profess encouraging and positive acclamations  over our children instead of words that tear them down. We want to give them a good head start in life.

Remember we can’t sweat circumstances we can’t control, but we can control our thought processes of what we think and how we think. Be blessed!

 Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. Proverbs 18:21

For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he…. Proverbs 23:7

For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7